Take Extreme Ownership
When something goes wrong, the instinct is to point at the boss, the team, the circumstances. Jocko's rule is that it is your fault, because you have not yet led, educated, or influenced the people around you. He says if your boss is not giving you what you need, "it's actually your fault because you haven't educated them."
The play
Pick one thing currently going wrong that you have blamed on someone else. Write the sentence "this is my fault because I have not yet..." and finish it with the specific thing you control. Then act on that thing.