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The Tim Ferriss Show ft. Brené Brown

8 tactics for taking the armor off without falling apart. The armor that once protected you is now the thing keeping you stuck.

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With Brené Brown

"Keep your shadows in front of you, they can only take you down from behind." — Brené Brown
Brené Brown, on the episode

Brené Brown is known as the vulnerability researcher with the giant TED talk. The episode is more useful than that reputation suggests. It is a set of concrete relational mechanics, for marriage, parenting, and your own armor, that turn "be vulnerable" from a slogan into things you can actually run on a Tuesday.

Tactic 01

Run The 80/20 Relationship Check-In

The idea that a marriage is 50/50 is a setup for resentment. Brené and Steve quantify their energy instead. Someone comes home and says "I've got 20," the other says I will carry the 80. When the combined number drops below 100, that is the signal to sit down and make a plan of kindness.

The play

With your partner, each name a number from 0 to 100 for how much you have today. If the total is under 100, do not negotiate chores. Make a plan to reduce load, order food, cancel things, lower the bar, until you both recover.

Tactic 02

Replace Your Armor With Curiosity

Tactic 03

Set The Line Yourself

Tactic 04

Keep Your Shadows In Front Of You

Tactic 05

Build A Family-Focused Family

Tactic 06

Move Your Kids From Compliance To Commitment

Tactic 07

Filter Everything Through Contribution

Tactic 08

Ask What You Are Unwilling To Feel

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