Tactic 01
Brené Brown, The Tim Ferriss Show
Run The 80/20 Relationship Check-In
The play
Ask your partner to name a number today and plan small kindnesses if the total feels low.
Brené Brown says
Marriage is never actually 50/50, which she calls a crock. She and Steve quantify where they are using numbers for energy, kindness, and patience. When their combined number is less than 100, they sit down and figure out a plan of kindness toward each other. That plan can include ordering out, getting the housekeeper an extra day, and canceling anything with people they really do not like.
Try this
Ask your partner to name a number for today, and if your combined total feels low, sit down and plan small kindnesses to lighten the load.