Tactic 01
Esther Perel, The Diary of a CEO
Run The 30-Second Reunion Ritual
The play
Give your partner 30 seconds of full, undivided attention the instant you reunite, then name a specific return time, to break the knock-and-withdraw loop before it starts.
Esther Perel says
When one partner withdraws, the other escalates the pursuit to test whether they'll actually be responded to, and that becomes a loop. You don't need the other person to move first, changing your own behavior is what resets the pattern.
Try this
Give full attention for thirty seconds and name a specific return time when you reunite with your partner.