Gabor Maté, The Tim Ferriss Show
Ask Why The Pain, Not Why The Addiction
Ask what relief a behavior gives instead of why it happens.
Gabor Maté says
Instead of asking why the addiction, the question becomes why the pain. When people are asked what the addiction does for them, they describe it as something that numbs, soothes the pain, makes them feel connected with others, gives a sense of control, or gives inner peace. Asking why the pain instead of why the addiction leads to an examination of that person's life rather than looking just at their brain chemistry.
Try this
For one disliked behavior, ask yourself what relief it gives you instead of asking why you keep doing it.
